Indian family dominations

“achhaaaa is my tea ready????”....have you ever tried this out with your father? No, Indian families are carved under heretical-notions. Yet mini restructure of the family is a tag to “disrespect……” is the simplest form I can convey…. I know the gap between the 60s and 90s is evident. I still remember my grandmother stopping me from taking on my dad’s lap. Yes, it’s not grandma’s fault, it’s what she has seen in her life, just tiring to embed it into her granddaughters. The development of open-mind is seen better in our parents and much more in us and it goes on. So comparison of generation is invalid nowadays.

Elder: at your age u know what all I used to do…….the glorious story goes on with our ears crying for help.

The rapid feature of youth can’t be compressed on our elders nor argument is all waste of time. The boiling youth’s common question “why” are quiet counter less. Kids are constructed by satisfying nosy societies.

                “Ammu, no what will others think if you ….” Thou parents have your side yet they give it a pause as ‘meddlers’ are visible everywhere. The situation of commentaries of on their young lads is what they are avoiding.

The establishment of free thinking is transparent along with an equatorial line between male and female. The observational advancement of discrimination is not neglected.

         “Achu next time don’t wear this when you go to the public” “amma but see appu is wearing something similar why don’t you try tell him too” yes the customary dialogue comes “achu, he is a boy”. That’s just one small example. I am sure you girls out there have much more to relate. Debates on these can lead to dominations on women today. Some of them are:

§  ‘feminism’ entitled on her actions

§  She is highlighted with arrogance despite of her freedom…..

Along with mutual understandings of what makes women different from man, conquering of rights is not we are asking for. But the so called teachings by our mothers and aunties itself is what hounds. Furthermore it can be their advance protection from our male mouths.

Kingship and marriage has a contemporary Indian culture. Complexity of the wide outrange of the hierarchy throughout the world is its one reason. Besides divergence of age, the addressing of members by respected terms rather than names is spectacular. The modern influence of calling names of your closer ones is contemplated as ill-mannered.

Finally marriage is an agreement with acceptance of the entire match between castes, status, religion; family etc…….the essential factors has its own reasons.

I know a unity of them can be a result of a prosperous family. Even with the belief of the one and living god only, controversial ideas exist. Under him we all are one. The bond between two is superior to the norms is what I believe. Next comes the expectational fixed span for you each event (Dulquar’s dialogue, Bangalore days) starting with:

      “School over ….then not writing entrance…degree over…didn’t get         job….if got job, hows your salary …..when is your marriage….after marriage….kids…..no kids –doctor’s number….if  kids arrive  the oscillation restarts again to season 2…….”

An age barrier for gender is exasperating with 23 for girls and 27 for men. Right for equality is not the squabble but a descent job for the pre-bride is necessary.

Religion plays a vital role in Indian scenario with ‘idol worship as ideal’. Creating an image or environmental for worship is admissible. But the fanatic beliefs lead to the wrong side of the road. Act of bribing is a parochial-query with lots of masked veracities.

Thus flourishing India has its reformation happening regardless of its hassles.

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